Do people think that being single and happy is a cover-up for your inability to settle down? Personally the reason why I can't seem to settle down is what lead me to write this post and use my humor sketches to share 8 romance stories to entertain you about my dating game. When I tell people I'm single, I just have to clarify that finding love doesn't have to equate to conforming to society's expectation for your life.

If you want to find the truth of your desire in life, you have to start by asking what do I truly love, what's beautiful, what is good, what moves me deeply, what makes me happy? If you can answer those questions, I honestly think they have the ability to take you on the journey of finding your ultimate desire. That desire might be to settle down with that special someone and start a family which is a commendable pursuit. And if that’s not part of your plan (yet), I’m here to tell you that point of view is also commendable.

I'll admit that having an unconventional lifestyle can sometimes be uncomfortable mostly because people tend to ask questions digging into your insecurities. That's why I think self-assessment questions that make us think about our goals, fears, and desires often go unanswered. Instead of exploring ourselves, we stumble around the roadblocks and imaginary fears we've unintentionally placed in front of us. 

Excuse me if I'm deflecting my personal views. I just find that the subject of “are you dating anyone?” is a constant theme wherever I go.  Perhaps you don't even have to be a solo traveler like me, but anyone whose lifestyle deviates slightly from "society’s" expectations. I truly believe that the idea that everyone's story should somehow be similar is a corrosive idea.

Embracing my story means that I had to realize what I want, that singleness doesn't imply loneliness, bid farewell to undeserving relationships that lingered, and feel good about the experiences that made me feel loved and respected.  

Traveling is a good way to reassess what you want in a relationship and perhaps find what qualities are important to you before you settle. I feel it’s a privilege and gift to be able to travel while single, and by slowly navigating through life, travel journeys, and obstacles, it’s helping me understand myself and what I want in a relationship. So, the long-awaited

8 points are my personal favorite memories with men I met in my travel journey

These recollections are from taking mental notes every time I felt understood and cared for. Sometimes their action was intentional and sometimes it was unintentional and unwarranted, but they nonetheless made me feel valued. 

1. Shared moments create deep connections

2. He’s a good listener

3. He cares for your well being

4. Respects my family

5. He’s spontaneous and likes to make me laugh

6. We both share the same intrests

7. He’s a man of his word

8. He will do what it takes to make you happy

Self-knowledge is a road to self-love and acceptance of Our story. Maybe you find your self single and baffled because you're a darn good catch. I'm here to say allow your journey to teach you what you want in a partner. Enjoy simply being single and  take mental notes of what kind of partner you want to journey in life with when you're ready to settle down. And for all the folks with the right intention but wrong words, maybe consider using your words to build single people up and your intentions to think outside the box. What an enlightening idea, ha! Hope you enjoyed my sketch and blurb. Comment below with your opinion, are you single?